Where women in London find their people
We'll introduce you to a small group of women in their 20s and 30s who feel like your kind of people — and we'll book the first plan, so all you have to do is show up.
No swipes, no feeds, no cold DMs. We do the hard part — finding your people and handing you a real meetup. The friendship that follows? That's the fun bit.
A few thoughtful questions — what lights you up, when you're free, and where in London you call home.
We match twice a week — Monday and Wednesday — hand-picking a small circle of 3–5 women you'll genuinely click with.
We suggest the activity, the spot, the time — a Sunday brunch, an R&B night in Dalston, a slow walk on the Heath.
When at least three accept, chat unlocks and you meet. From there, make your own plans — or choose to meet a new circle through +you.
We match every Monday and Wednesday, so there's always a circle forming just around the corner.
Circles are 3–5 women (never forced to fill). Once yours is revealed you have 8 hours to confirm your spot — then the group chat opens so you can plan together before you meet.
Why we match you in circles of 3–5
A small group makes it easier to move past introductions and actually hear each other. Research on close social ties and the size of a shared conversation helped shape our 3–5-person circles, with four as the sweet spot — not as a promise of instant friendship, but as a good place to start.
In research on personal social networks, Robin Dunbar and Michael Spoors described a closest layer of roughly five people: the ones we turn to for emotional support. It doesn't mean five strangers will automatically become close friends. It reminds us that closeness has room to grow in small numbers.
Jaimie Krems and Jason Wilkes explored why a single conversation tends to hold around four people before it becomes harder for everyone to take part. That's one reason we aim for four women in a circle: more than a one-to-one, but still small enough to hear each other.
A small circle gives each woman several one-to-one connections to explore, while keeping the first meetup personal, comfortable and easy to navigate.
Our approach: By matching women into circles of 3–5, +you creates space for meaningful conversations, shared experiences and friendships that can continue beyond the first meetup.
A taste of what your first plans might look like.
Our story
"I'd love a new friend — and I have no idea where to begin."
A quiet thought a lot of women have had, and rarely say out loud.
Meet the founders
We both moved to a big city where we barely knew anyone.
On paper, London promised endless opportunities, millions of people, and something happening every night. But the reality was very different. Most weekends we'd find ourselves scrolling through our contacts, wondering who to text, or staying home because we didn't have anyone to make plans with.
Like so many women, we turned to Facebook groups hoping to meet people. That's actually where we found each other.
But getting there wasn't easy.
Before we met, there were months of awkward one-off coffees, conversations that never went anywhere, and endlessly scrolling through hundreds of comments trying to find someone who lived nearby, liked the same things, and happened to be free at the same time. Making friends felt like a second job.
Then we got lucky.
We met, clicked immediately, and realised how different life in London felt when you had someone to share it with. But one thought kept coming back:
Why should finding genuine friendships depend on luck?
That's why we created +you.
The idea is simple: instead of spending hours searching, messaging, and hoping for the best, we do the matching for you. We bring together small groups of women with shared interests, similar lifestyles, and availability — so you can skip the exhausting part and get straight to what really matters:
Sitting around a table, laughing with women who feel like you've known them for years, and walking away with friendships that actually last.
Dating apps aren't built for it. Group chats go quiet. Women carry the emotional labour of reaching out — again — and it gets exhausting. Everyone else seems to already have their people.
The moving, unsettled chapter. First flats, career pivots, breakups, engagements, first babies, moves across the city. Your 20s and 30s are when friendships shift the most — and a small, thoughtful circle changes everything.
Big rooms of 50 strangers are daunting alone and lonely with a plus one. In a circle of 3–5, everyone actually talks. Intimate, warm, impossible to hide in — the size real friendships are made at.
Our purpose
To make it easier for women in London to find the brunch group, the travel crew, the Sunday walk companions — the ordinary, extraordinary friendships that make a city feel like home.
You don't need to be anyone new here. You just need to say yes to one first meetup.
Our north star is a thoughtful match and a real meetup with your people. That meetup opens the door; deeper friendships grow over time, through the conversations and plans you choose to make beyond +you.
Honest answers, no fine print.